A day will hardly pass without being reported on media that a child is discovered or found abandoned in a nearby bush or anywhere. Others have also been been left on the hands of unsuspecting fellow travelers or left on bus stage.
My main worry which have been also my main question , who should be blamed for the abandoned children? Is he the father or the mother or both ? In most cases , ladies have been blaming men the action while men also blame ladies on the same.
Let me first talk to the ladies. Think of the following first. How would you feel if your discovered that your mother had abandoned you as a young kid and you are now in the hands of a lady who does not love you because you are not her own? Would be you what you are today had you been abandoned as a young kid? Are you proud to be called a mother ? In fact these are endless questions which has been very much disturbing in deed.
Before ladies make the decision to abandon their young innocent kids for reasons best known to them, the following should be put into consideration and reflect them at he back of their mind.
- When you were starting the relationship that gave forth the child, were you forced into relationship or you willingly entered in to it?
- How tiresome is it to carry a baby in your womb for 9 months?
- How would you feel if your abandoned child dies?
These seems to be endless questions that that the answers are obvious. The truth of the matter is that is that most of the abandoned children are as a result of willing relationship apart from the ladies who by accident get pregnant out of rape or tricked cases.
Despite all these they are never short of excuses if their action is discovered. They would give reasons such as the responsible men have kept off their responsibility as fathers. Other ladies can also take such action in the event of their men getting a new lady. So they do this in protest to show their dissatisfaction with the steps taken by their friends . Some are also walking out of the marriage and out of frustrations they abandon the child.
The gentlemen are not left out of this blame game. They also have reasons to counter the accusations labeled on them by the ladies . Some would be saying that they are still young and not ready to take responsibility as a father. Others will say they were tricked in having a baby by the ladies with expectation that the marry them . They also have endless reason s to defend themselves.
Despite the strong defense from both parties the mother and the father of the abandoned child, it is true that both are on the wrong side .
As much as the young innocent child suffers in the hands of their parents, the blame game continues. The mother says he is the father and the father says she is the mother .
Ladies, gents, be very careful while entering or starting a relationship. Ask yourself is the relation healthy or unhealthy? How can I continue with a relation which end result should not be a backfire. The decision is purely yours . Check out for the kind of relationship you are entering or starting.